Hello guys !
Today I’m here to discuss a very hot/controversial/insert-whatever-you-want subject: Unpopular Opinions. Dum. Dum. DUM. Okay, I’m probably making a big deal out of nothing but this is a real thing, if you have unpopular opinions -I know I do, LOTS- ya gotta know how to express them, the reason behind them AND if all of that is done correctly, how to deal with the consequences. If you’re lost, I got you. Here’s the guide of a big-mouthed girl to unpopular opinions (Aka me, if you didn’t guess already).
What is an unpopular opinion ? You may ask. It is when you express an opinion about anything and everything -it could be a book, a movie, a Tv-show etc… – that goes against the one of the majority. Most of the time, the only ones we pay attention to are the negative ones and those are the most delicate ones to deal with. So that’s what I’m focusing on today.
Exhibit A : I don’t like the Lux series, not in the slightest, not at all. But it has excellent ratings on GR which means that the general opinion on it is positive.
What’s the big deal ? You may ask again. To me -who doesn’t give a flipping cow what the “reaction” could be. Read: Trolls– there’s none. But other people are scared to express their opinions when they know that most people won’t agree, that they’re going to get judged, even insulted for them so they shut their mouths and keep it to themselves. I’m here to tell you NO. Don’t do that. We live in a free world after all.
There’s also people being jerks with their opinions, meaning: “The author is horrible, should’ve never picked a pen” or “This is a piece of shit and not a piece of literature” or “People who read and like this are dumb”. Stop it.
Why are you expressing your unpopular opinion ?
If it is to talk trash with no constructive criticism whatsoever? Shove it down your throat so that you won’t be able to produce any sounds or mean comments in the future. You’re doing a public service. Thank you!
Make sure that the soul purpose of your review (In our case, as bookbloggers) is constructive criticism and not pointless provocation. Because THEN, if people are not that nice in the comments you deserve it and I won’t be your lawyer (Yes because my mama said I could be whatever I wanted and that’s today’s career choice).
Why do we need unpopular opinions ?
1. Because they are everything. No but seriously, I LOVE THEM. I love producing them -Be hold, there’s one coming your way at the end of the week- and I also love reading them especially when they’re filled with humour and wittiness while still being straight to the point.
2. Because we can’t all share the same opinions every damn time. That would be boring and just impossible, we are all built differently -Thank the heavens- which means that we see things differently. Consequence: We make up our own minds about the things we see and read.
3. Because they’re actually better than the general opinion. Okay, okay, hold the fires and let me explain.
Exhibit B: When everyone’s raving about a book, at some point, everything is talked about and it just starts being repetitive. Whilst with unpopular opinions, they’re unique and bring new things to the table, that can bring the book to a new light.
This is the part that makes all the difference.
How to express unpopular opinions ?
How on earth can you do that without being offending? Or at least, as little as possible. It’s not that hard actually. There are essentially 2 ways to do it.
1. Being nice. You give the facts, point out the flaws in A HEALTHY WAY. No matter how much the book made you angry, frustrated, you stay civil please. Yes you can talk about all these negative emotions that it made you feel but without trashing the book or the author (exemple stated in the first section). I really admire people who can do it this way, I REALLY DO, but I just can’t, because I cannot for the life of me cope while being nice.
2. Humour is your best weapon. If you have a mean strick like me but are still respectful, this is the best way to go about it. When I don’t like a book I can’t be gentle about it. Without my snarky comments, I feel naked and I’ll quite frankly lose my mind. You are walking a fine line here, because humour can turn bitter fast and snarky comments replaced with hateful ones. I’m not saying that my humour is great hah naaah! but I try, and I make me laugh, so that’s the most important thing, right?
Exhibit C: Any of Liam‘s negative reviews, I can’t read through them without cracking up.
How to deal with unpopular opinions ?
Here, it’s all about the other side. If you share the general opinion. The POPULAR opinion and you come across one of these, what do you do?
1. You leave a comment where you state your opinion and try and discuss to find where and how your opinions diverge.
2. If you don’t have it in you, just IGNORE THE DAMN THING. No one’s making you comment, so if you can’t deal with the unpopular opinion and feel like it’s a personal attack just leave it be.
3. Never, ever, EVER impose your opinion and think that it is the right one, and the only one that should exist. There can be as many opinions as there are people and there are ALL right.
That’s it until next time.
What’s your take on unpopular opinions? And how do you deal with them?
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