Hello guys !
This topic came to my mind maybe about a week ago. It is the end of the year, some of us are graduating high-school, some others from college, I belong in neither category but I still feel myself changing, each and every day I discover something new about myself, or loose interest in things that were close to my heart. That is why I’m here today to discuss Growing-up and ramble a little about my experience and what I feel are some signs of growth. I’m not talking about the gaining some inches kind of growth, I’m talking about the deeper aspects of it, the ones that change the core of your being. For the better that is. Meeeh, as much as I’m in denial about growing-up, I get told it is still a mandatory thing. WHY SO CRUEL ?
Your close circle is getting smaller
Why? Either because you’re realizing that some people are just toxic, or you simply grew apart. And you realize that the number of people you drift away from is exponentially bigger than the one of the people you get close to. You become more selective with the people you trust, the ones who know you, the REAL you, not the one you want to show the world, while…
Your social network gets larger
I’m sure you’re confused haha. What I mean is that you realize that you actually need to interact with people for your life prospects to widen because with new people come new ideas, new cultures, new experiences and those people make your life richer, they open your eyes on things you didn’t know before, or that you saw in a different light and with that…
You start to forge your own opinions
You don’t accept opinions the way they’re dumped on you as your own anymore. You research, you ask around for different point of views and depending on your own thinking, your own circumstances you get to say whether it fits your own beliefs and the life you’re leading or the one that you’re looking to lead.
You’ve opened yourself up to new ideas
I’m way, way, WAY more open-minded than I was a few years back. To be honest I was a stuck-up brat and I’m so grateful for that change, it has opened my eyes to so many opportunities and friendships and what not.
Months can go by without you seeing people you used to see everyday
This one is the hardest for me right now because it really hits home and it is one of things that inspired this post. My best friend is moving away, like to another country. Hell, to another continent even. And I’m used to seeing that girl at least twice a week. And now I’ll have to go months, maybe even more than a year without seeing her and that is scary. I know we’ll still talk a lot and that doesn’t mean that we’ll drift apart because we went through so much together but still, I feel left behind. She’s so excited about it and I just can’t share that excitement. Yes I know it is selfish but I do my best not to show her that it kind of sucks for me.
You think about your future more concretely
This doesn’t mean that you KNOW what your future will look like, you most certainly don’t and it’s fine, you’ll eventually figure it out. BUT it starts holding a big chunk of your thoughts hostage as you want to achieve some goals and looking for ways to how to do so etc…
You understand that failure is inescapable
You used to think of failure as such a big deal, something to be ashamed of, something that you should never encounter and if you ever do fail you thought that it made you unworthy of whatever thing you failed at. But now you know it’s false. You fail ? You get back up and try again, until you eventually get it right.
Some things that made sense to you at some point, don’t anymore
Like some hobbies you had, some things you thought you could never live without, some decisions that seemed right at the time and that led to a cascade of wrong turns, some arguments you had that seem unnecessary now. It all just seems unnecessary, stupid or a waste of time now.
You seek deeper conversations
I’ve realized this a lot lately. There’s a friend of mine with whom I used to talk about make-up and clothes and boys all the time and I enjoyed it, but now when all she does is talk about those things I just don’t feel like it anymore, I need more. I’m not saying that those things are bad, I still love talking about them, it’s just that I don’t want all my conversation to be about that. I need to connect on a deeper level, to share thoughts, discuss ideas, even talk about books and music.
Your tolerance has went down a few levels
I don’t mean it in the way that you lose your temper faster but rather in the way that you’re more comfortable with cutting shitty things out of your life, you don’t just stand there and hope that the crap will pass, you take action and you MAKE IT PASS. And finally…
You don’t take things personally anymore
I was the kind of girl that thought that when my crush didn’t like me back that there was something wrong with me. That if a person insulted me, that insult would define me and I would become self-conscious. But now I just realize that we can’t have everyone like us and approve of our lives, and that I don’t need anyone’s approval but my own to lead the life I want to.
Okay, that was a LOT haha, but I just wanted to share my midnight thoughts (Yes most of these came to me yesterday while insomnia was claiming my body) hoping that it would make sense to some of you. Oh yeah, and one last thing, always remember that growing-up doesn’t mean that you have to let go of the kid that lives inside of you, I know that mine will forever be there.
That’s it until next time
How do YOU know that you’re growing-up ?
Hope you enjoyed, write to you soon.
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